With our technology, now you can experience your life’s grief (death, illness, war, tragedies) anytime you choose. Some decide to feel it in their 20s, arguably the most resilient years—but that often leaves them jaded, despondent. Others wait till their 30s, when they’ve matured some, although it stifles that essential decade. A few wait till later, perhaps their 70s, like a kid saving their vegetables for last—but then you’ve had that dread hanging over you forever. Most simply choose to go back to the old way, when grief hit whenever it chose; then you’d simply have to go on living.